BACKlikeWEneverLEFT

The older I get, the more I realize that it’s hard for people to just mind their business. It’s funny how when you are younger, you never paid attention much to what was going on with other people around you as long as you were having fun. When you get older it seems as if people cannot go a minute out of the day without finding dirt on someone or gossiping about another. Everyone knows about that nosey neighbor on their block that’s always peeping out the window or looking out the door trying to figure out what’s going on. They even have created tv shows i.e. (Entertainment Tonight, TMZ) and readings i.e. (People Magazine, The Inquirer) that feeds the appetite of people wanting to know miscellaneous, useless information about celebrities or people they don’t personally know. Public forums such as Twitter and Facebook allow us to gain information of what’s going on in the lives of people around us that we otherwise wouldn’t know or wouldn’t bother to find out. I mean it’s always good to gain knowledge of something or learn information about someone, but it’s a thin line between that and minding someone else’s business.

And that’s the problem, in my eyes that a lot of people in this world possess. People don’t know what’s the difference between gaining knowledge for something useful about a person and when they are just being too frickin’ nosey or noosey as Philly residents say it. When we were younger, as children we played a game called Telephone in school. The game is played like this: the teacher starts the game by whispering a message in the first students ear. Then that student whispers what they thought they heard in the next student’s ear. This is repeated until the message reaches the last student in class. Then that student tells the class the message that they heard. Usually what happens is the message becomes distorted and it’s nowhere near what the teacher told the first student. Something simple as “I have the best students” turns into something crazy like “Class is real stupid”. Point of the game is for the teacher to show what gossiping is and how it isn’t good to do. Problem is most people do exactly that; they gossip and end up giving false information about people. Not minding their own business, they create unnecessary problems for people who don’t deserve them.

These problems happen to everyone in life me, you, everyone. No one is excerpt from gossip or people not minding their own business. That’s a part of life, but I just wish people knew when they are just being malicious and not trying to help a person’s situation. For example, if you are trying to find out if a friend of yours is abusing drugs, if you want to be able to help them and you are asking other people about their actions or habits, I don’t feel as if you being nosey, but trying to help. I can respect that. But say if you see something that someone you don’t personally know doing and you don’t understand the situation, you just run and tell the next person and that person runs and tell the next person, now we are playing telephone. And what happens? When the story gets back to the person that’s being gossiped about, it is usually never the truth. And the worst part is that the person that is gossiping or not minding their business is doing it for malicious reasons, not to help anyone. That’s my biggest gripe about it, people keep it a 100 and just say you doing these actions just to start trouble.

The world would be a much more peaceful place if everyone just stayed in their lane and play their part. That means don’t worry about what’s going on in the car next to you while you are driving, just pay attention to your course and you will never steer wrong. Start looking around in other cars while driving, trying to figure out what’s going on in their car and you are bound to crash. Stop gossiping so much and minding other people’s business and just focus on your own lives people. It’s never a good look on your character when people realize you are a gossiper. As the old saying goes, “Those that gossip to you, gossip about you”, so choose wisely those you keep in your inner circle. Until next time, y’all know my motto, I’m out like a fat chick in dodgeball.