What Happened to the Real?

Posted: April 2, 2014 by Handy in Uncategorized


Good day world, it’s your man Handy, one half of the BLWNL crew back at it with another blog. I hope everyone that blesses their eyes on our blogs are in good spirits and everything is well in your life. Now that we got the formalities out of the way, let’s start getting to the topic at hand: What Happened to the ReaL?

I was actually going to blog about another topic, but recent current events made this topic jump o the forefront of my mind. So let’s talk about it shall we?

So I have an IPhone and on it is an application called GroupMe. Shout out to the folks who created this app that should also be known as AIM 2.0. Pretty much its just a group messaging application. But the beauty of it is it crosses the boundaries of phones. Whether a Galaxy, IPhone or Blackberry. As long as your phone is a smartphone you can use the application. This allows you to keep in contact with multiple people that may not be in your area. This instant messaging also allows you to talk to multiple people at once in a group chat. You can also direct message specific people in the group without the whole group seeing. Plus you can post pics in the group chat. Its actually a great idea. Im giving you this info to give you a picture of the scenario.

Now imagine if you have a person who has a gf/bf, fiancé/fiancée, or wife/husband. You would expect themselves to govern themselves accordingly. Especially if they are involved in a groupme chat with single people. What they do and say within the group isn’t necessarily what that person can or will do. Now imagine if that same person thats involved carry themselves as if they are single also. The trouble they can eventually get themselves in could be catastrophic. Especially if there are people within the group that may know their significant other. Anyway that’s not really what this blog is about, just painting a scenario for y’all.

What happened to the real? I see a lot of fakes and phonies in my daily basis, especially with men. I mean there are a lot of fake woman, but I believe that is a direct correlation with the fake men they deal with on a regular basis. Men out here living whole double lives like it’s cool and it’s not. You can’t be engaged today and trying to hit everything moving out here. You can’t have a wife and kids at home and turn around and tell your side chick to have an abortion because you not ready for kids. You can’t say your single knowing you live with your significant other. Men lie, woman lie, everybody lies but it’s getting ridiculous now. Dudes out here lying to women that arent their girls about things they dont have to lie about. What part of the game is this??!!

When I was growing up, I was taught as a very young man, all you had was your word if nothing else at all. Somewhere in the recent years, that has gotten lost with our black men. And it has affected the way black women interact with us. My co-blogger and I always discuss how woman act towards men based off their previous experiences and even though we don’t agree, we now understand the fairness woman display towards men.

I’ve had many of my female friends joke, “He prob got a wife, 3 kids and a dog at home talking about he single” Back in the day this wouldn’t even be taken seriously. Nowadays you gotta do research because it might be true. People wonder why marriages are failing at an epic rate and I relate that directly to not being real. Whether that’s who you truely are as a person or what’s your status as a person, either way just keep it real. I come from an era where if someone questioned your realness, someone might end up dying real rap. I know a couple of people in prison today because they kept it real. Now you call someone out on their fakeness and they brush it off like it’s nothing.

Hopefully if you are a person who performs these actions on a daily basis and reading this, please reconsider your actions. It cost nothing to be honest and keep it real, but it could cost you everything to be a fake, phonie and liar. Please stop making it hard out on these streets for a real man like myself. Until next time world be blessed and be great, I’m out.

  1. Mally says:

    👏👏👏👏 that was great Handy. Thanks for this.


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