Posts Tagged ‘communication’

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Hey what’s going on good people, it’s one half of the crew returning. I was told to step my post game up since I stay away too long. Realized I do need to get on my grind for you guys. With that said, let me get on it. As always I was having an interesting conversation with peers. The topic of choice was about cultural dynamics and the togetherness noted throughout different communities. The conversation progressed into several subtopics and the hierarchy found throughout different cultures. Based on the title of this piece I am sure everyone is wondering where I am going with this whole concept. Of course my wheels were spinning again causing me to come on BLWNL.com and talk my talk. Walk with me for a minute as I travel this path.

Given that I am an African-American male in my late 20’s I tend to view life as it relates to me first. Then I try to see life from a different perspective and combine the two ideals. As previously stated the conversation was about different cultures and I became so intrigued and disappointed at the same time. The concept of strengthening a community from within appeals to me as a community driven person. As I sat down and viewed other cultures, ultimately I had to compare my own. The black community or African American community is that of which I have always identified, so I speak from what I know. The Jewish and Asian cultures are two of which I believe are structurally intact. They come in, set up shop, profit, bring family in, move on to the next situation. The Jewish as well as the Asian also assist others that may not be family. Meaning if they identify with you they attempt to help you succeed in some form or fashion. I respect that 100%, something unfortunately I feel the African American community has gotten away from.

Naturally everyone has heard the cliché of “crabs in a barrel” but what does it really mean. For those of you whom have been living under a rock all of your life, picture this concept. (more…)

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What’s good world?? So my co-blogger has been genuinely killing me on the blog tip lately, so I have to step my game up. With that being said… Yeaaaa it’s crunch time baabaay!!! Haha but the topic of discussion for today will be taking risks and how it goes both ways in the dynamic of the male-female relationship. If you are not willing to take risks, how can you ask for risks to be taken on yourself? Or another question to be asked can be are risks worth being taken from either side? These two questions to me are the most dynamic when it comes to how males and females interact with each other when first meeting. I feel these two questions are some of the most important when a man is interested in a woman and vice versa. Lets delve into this issue a little deeper.

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“Can we talk for a minute, girl I want to know your name”…  came on last night, and I began to sing along with Tevin Campbell.  The song always catches my ears, no matter when I hear it.  As I was singing along, I realized why I like it so much.  Essentially it sets the tone for the conversation for the lady of interest, as well as gets her attention in a noticeable way.   More so, the phrase is a conversation starter with anybody.  ‘Can we talk’ has transformed into slogan to sit down and communicate.  Depending on the tone and inflection of one’s words that can lead to a positive or negative sit down.  Essentially communication is key to growth and survival, and over the past few days  my co blogger and I have dissected the way people communicate.  If wondering why; well as black men we have many goals, none more important than surviving.

Survival can best be defined as the struggle to remain alive and living.  For the purpose of this post, I view survival in a sense of over coming obstacles to get to the next level.   Communication is a major obstacle that civilizations struggle to overcome .  Today it seems with all the creative ways to communicate, we continue to lack even more when it comes to effectively communicating.   In order to understand how to communicate with one another, one must fully understand and comprehend the meaning of communication.  After looking up the definition I came across this: the imparting or interchange of thoughts, opinions, or information by speech, writing, or signs.  What does it all mean, basically to share thoughts from one to another.  The definition seems pretty simple, the act of communicating also seems simple as well.   However, the human race continues to struggle with the concept of communication, and that intrigues me to a point where I have to investigate. (more…)

Most of communication today happens ANY WAY but real verbal conversation.   People have cut out verbally speaking to one another these days; to send text messages, IM’s, emails, everything of that nature.  In today’s society  that is much quicker and easier to do than an actual phone conversation.  I mean let’s be real, you don’t always need to talk on the phone to find your answers.  Why call to ask “where are you?” when I could have just texted you.  Yea that’s simple,  I do it all the time, I prefer texting compared to talking on the phone.  I admit it, texting during the day can help your day go by quicker.  I do; however prefer in person conversation.  Nothing like a good in person conversation to get a real view of somebody.  With that said, I’m not here to discuss which form of communication is better, I wanted to take a look at how we actually text.

Most people text because it’s quick and simple, and I agree 100%.  My problem with things like texting, IM’s, emails, whatever, is this over use of shorthanded ish.  People text whole conversations without using real sentences anymore.  The world is becoming so flooded with random shorthand, or abbreviations that I seen professional emails using them.  People out here emailing, ‘ TTYL ‘(talk to you later), um pardon you  this is work.  Since when did this become the thing to do, and where is my shorthand/abbreviation handbook because I can’t keep up.  People can text you something like  GM, HRU, WYD, HMU when you get off, WYA, cool im OMW all in a row and that’s the whole conversation.  That person just everything without saying anything. Translation : Good morning,  how are you, what you doing, hit me up when you get off, where you at, cool im on my way.  Crazy to me, how simple that was; no real words or anything. 

Yes I do use some of them, but I try not to use everything right after each other.   There are countless others, and I guess I’m confused about where they come from.  I see new ones being used like every three months, and I have no clue who agreed to these. Maybe I just am missing the shorthand meetings or something idk (I don’t know).  But anyways I would like for people to get back to using some sentences.   It’s a lot easier to read a sentence, then trying to figure out what the heck those combination of letters mean.  When you have to consult with somebody about what does  this “random shorthand phrase means” things have gone too far.  Somebody was texting me GTG, thinking it meant God’s Too Good, and it took me a minute to realize they were using it wrong. Like um that means ‘Got To Go.’  Needless to say, they stopped using it all together.  But this just goes to show, that some things are best said being said. Use more sentences good people.  On that note, I gtg, will ttyl, please k.i.t. and stay tuned for my next post.