Posts Tagged ‘men’

crabs-in-a-barrel-ka-son-reeves

Hey what’s going on good people, it’s one half of the crew returning. I was told to step my post game up since I stay away too long. Realized I do need to get on my grind for you guys. With that said, let me get on it. As always I was having an interesting conversation with peers. The topic of choice was about cultural dynamics and the togetherness noted throughout different communities. The conversation progressed into several subtopics and the hierarchy found throughout different cultures. Based on the title of this piece I am sure everyone is wondering where I am going with this whole concept. Of course my wheels were spinning again causing me to come on BLWNL.com and talk my talk. Walk with me for a minute as I travel this path.

Given that I am an African-American male in my late 20’s I tend to view life as it relates to me first. Then I try to see life from a different perspective and combine the two ideals. As previously stated the conversation was about different cultures and I became so intrigued and disappointed at the same time. The concept of strengthening a community from within appeals to me as a community driven person. As I sat down and viewed other cultures, ultimately I had to compare my own. The black community or African American community is that of which I have always identified, so I speak from what I know. The Jewish and Asian cultures are two of which I believe are structurally intact. They come in, set up shop, profit, bring family in, move on to the next situation. The Jewish as well as the Asian also assist others that may not be family. Meaning if they identify with you they attempt to help you succeed in some form or fashion. I respect that 100%, something unfortunately I feel the African American community has gotten away from.

Naturally everyone has heard the cliché of “crabs in a barrel” but what does it really mean. For those of you whom have been living under a rock all of your life, picture this concept. (more…)

stuck in a box

 

Growing up you’re bred to work.  Many of us have dreams of the types of jobs we would love to work.   However, as we matriculate through life sometimes we fall short from our dream job.   Other times our dream job may not be a stable money making profession leaving us stuck in the pursuit of something more financially pleasing.   Given the fact that life is expensive,  every one understands.   The thing that we tend to lose is what we want to do verses what we need to do.   I was listening to a Kanye interview he was giving with Ricky Smiley last month that really caught my attention.  Those that know me know that Kanye is one of my favorite artists out right now, so I really locked on his conversation.  He mentioned the concept of not being put in a box, which spoke volumes to me.   I tend to draw motivation from various avenues, often times from the rap world.  With that said, Kanye mentioned in his statement that he was more than a just a rapper.   As I heard those words I instantly understood and knew exactly what he meant.   In my understanding of his ( Kanye’s) interview, my gears got to grinding again.   This time I decided to return to BLWNL to share thoughts with everybody.

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As we move through the year quickly, I look up and notice June is upon me.  Not only is June here, but we are nearly halfway through the month, and the year for that matter.   As I realized it was nearly the third weekend in the month, the thing that was crossing my mind was that we hadn’t done a post this month.   (Don’t worry good people; we have been in the lab.  Forgive us for our delayed posts; both of us have been quite busy. )  With that said, I heard somebody make reference to FATHER’S DAY coming up, and I didn’t even realize how close it was.   Holiday’s rarely creep up on me, but this one has.   Looking at the dynamics of the holiday, I’m sure most people overlook the day.  People know weeks in advance when mother’s is coming, but for a holiday nearly a month later, it manages to fall under the radar.  For people to remember FATHER’S DAY, would imply they are celebrating a father.   Having been fatherless for years, I can see why it slipped my mind.  Since I was reminded, it got my mind wandering again.  For some reason, when my mind starts to think, I feel the need to share with everybody.  I thought about the real meaning of the third Sunday in June, entitled “Father’s Day.”  I didn’t just think about the meaning of the holiday, but the term that we use to describe the day itself.

Father is best defined “as a male parent who assumes as one’s own; take the responsibility.  Traditionally, fathers act in a protective, supportive and responsible way towards their children.”  This is how the term is ‘defined’, but is that what real happens.  Unfortunately I have to disagree, over the years we have lost the essence of  being a father, we have lost real fathers.   Essentially FATHER’S DAY has just become a second mother’s day.  A growing number of women are forced to play both the role of the mother and father.  These women get overlooked rarely receiving the acknowledgement deserved.   I applaud every woman out there, who is doing everything she can to provide for her children.  Enough praise and acknowledgement can not be offered to these ladies.  However, I am disappointed in the lack of fatherhood I continue to see as I mature. KEEP READING

 

So seeing that it’s not only Black History Month, but the month Cupid flies around with his chubby cakes and shoots people with love arrows, I figured we venture to the left and give an uplifting post of black love. Below is a quote from one of the late great men of the African American race, Marcus Garvey.

A happy but miserable state in which man finds himself from time to time; sometimes he believes he is happy by loving, then suddenly he finds how miserable he is.  It is all joy, it sweetens life, but it does not last.  It comes and goes, but when it is active, there is no greater virtue, because it makes one supremely happy.” – Marcus Garvey …KEEP READING!

This Can’t Be Life Smh

Posted: December 16, 2011 by Handy in Media
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The following material was created by a guest blogger.

Ok so, in the past few months there have been numerous videos uploaded to both Facebook & Youtube of young females in term getting “slutted out”. I’m not here to talk about the females, lets talk about us males for a second. Notice I said us, ALL males do dirt! Sorry fellas but its true, The point is some of us take pride in it and do absurd things like record the incident and post it on a social network. What I would personally like to know is, why? What could anybody possibly benefit from this? You are not getting paid and no woman wants a man that can’t keep his mouth closed, so you can’t be doing it for them. Lets be real, as a male, if it’s not involving money or women, we aren’t generally interested. The only other logical reason I could think of is to impress someone. We have already established that females are not intrigued by this act of desperation, so essentially you’re doing it to impress other males! How ironic is it that in your feeble quest to prove your masculinity, you’ve actually manage to come to a plateau where your masculinity is being questioned. Ladies don’t get to hype over this blog, depending on how well this one does another will soon follow discussing your role in this issue. All im saying is, real men don’t participate in acts like this boss. I’m not placing myself on a pedastooI. I am human, so I am entitled to do wrong sometimes too, but how far do you have to go these days until you realize you are wrong? Is your young mind really so engulfed in ignorance that you can’t come to terms with yourself in having a little self-respect? This is not a good look for our generation. As young men we should not inspire to disrespect our women nor ourselves with this type of foolishness, get your ish together!